Chik-flick-a-lay.

Okay so how many of you have actually seen a chick flick? Weather it was with the leading lady of your life I.E your mom or your sisters? Significant other maybe? Okay so by the looks of it, I think we all have seen a chick flick weather we wanted too or not. Now this is a narrative about how I took advice from those movies and applied them to real life.

Well I am not sure where I want too start this because I've been watching chick flicks before I even knew off top what it was and what it meant. I know we all hear of the major love stories of our times from, the notebook, sleepless in Seattle, Titanic, Twilight and Somethings gotta give just too name a few. First lets ask ourselves "what is a chick flick and why is this such a thing"? Well let me explain, a chick flick is kinda like those girly sappy movies, where there is lots of kissing and some type of dramatic love story in the background and the couple has too use all of their love too overcome such a hard ship. Beautiful isn't it and you probably had an image of a couple frolicking in the fields I bet. Now I hope you know as well as I do that none of that actually happens in real life and that the whole idea of frolicking is suppose to symbolize something I guess. The sick and twisted thing about it, is that love is out there but it hurts a lot worse then Hollywood makes it out to be and the most unrealistic thing about it is that, no one ever really gets their crush in the end. Think of it as emotional masochism, we do all the chasing for that feel good feeling just to be ditched for someone who's younger and has a smaller pants size. We didn't ask for this but sure as hell manifested it.

I use too love the idea of love and I use to binge on chick flicks nice and heavy. The crazy stories they come with and the ideal that love always prevails made me feel like, it wasn't just the pipe dreams of TV and all these things could be real and brought to life. So naturally being a Pisces I indulged in every girly movie I could get my hands on, and I used the things they did and said  In real life sometimes just too see if things worked out the way the way it did in the film. Now to no avail it didn't work, and so I thought that maybe I was trying too hard. Maybe I didn't have enough heart as the main character did in the first place, so now it was up to me to keep up and figure out. Yeah I know a lot harder then it sounds. I was initially falling behind left and right but I did my best too keep up the witty self deprecating banter I always manage to use and keep myself stable. It was too much and it seemed like every potential mate had something else in store or they didn't pick up on my advances. So the particular suitor in my occasion at this time was Jake, Jake had that hard to get awkward John Cusack thing going on so it was indeed difficult to read the signs but I made sure to always make the advances strong and clear. For example I texted him cute things, I checked on him and gave him gifts. All of which I did learn from these overly saturated love films. Sometimes it worked other times I am sitting in the corner wondering where did I go wrong and is it too late too turn back?

Not everything that I used on Jake worked for him, a previous ex I was half assed in courtship with he liked when I would write him poetry and he responded well to that, he also responded very well too the passionate love making but then again who didn't. It was honestly like TV took all of these ideas and meshed them into one and constantly put you under the impression that all of these come one were going to work on every suitor you found yourself with at the time. Tat wasn't always the case now was it? No one thing worked on two people, that was the best part, it was like something new each time. We all agree that we like new things and when you start a new relationship its like getting a new puppy, if we could we would always make that feeling last forever but it doesn't work like that.

I put myself out there as studied each movie and the hero or the heroine and see what they could've done differently. I remember liking this boy in summer school and the thing about him was that he liked a really witty girl and from there I remember the movie Anger management. That movie had some serious sarcastic banter in it especially on Jack Nicholson's part. From there I remember writing him a letter and I thought the maybe if I wrote him a sarcastic letter that maybe he would find interest in me. After all he did tell me that he never actually seen the movie so I figured that I could get away with it. So I studied the movie inside and out and I wrote everything down and I roped it into this casual, mean, sadistic letter, that I did actually get into trouble for at school. They deemed it inappropriate because of all of the sexual banter. That I didn't get at the time but looking back on it, it was funny. He thought the letter was great though and that was the important thing. The only problem is at the last minuet he decided too let us all know that he had a girlfriend and also had the nerve too shower off at recess. She had just started at our school at the time so it was whatever and from then on I never really let it get too me.

For the most part it all had made sense too me and that's what made me happy. Maybe these movies are right, maybe these were the formula's to attract a mate and stay happy forever with the perfect life. However that wasn't always true because not many of my relationships have been steady. That's what was worrying me and making me feel super inadequate. There hasn't been a perfect mate in my time for the longest, and I was determined too look to the movies to hopefully fish for a perfect mate. I tend to forget that I catch myself slipping and forgetting the fact that these movies weren't real and that these movies were scripted and that everything is already laid out and predetermined. However I found that the problem was that, it wasn't that I wasn't following these story lines, it was that none of my mate were anything like the guys someone had written out on paper and that's why I never got the special ending like in flick, I never got the ending that I so forth longed for, all the guys who were anything like those guys in the movie wanted to be with girls who were like super models.

Now the real issues came when heartbreak set in and that wasn't as nearly as romantic as it was in the movie. That's what I realized these movies were feeding lonely girls what they wanted the most and that was just happy ending with the boy they fell in love with  and tried too woo thought the whole movie. Now I am in no way shape or form saying that  this doesn't apply to me because it does and men have really great chicks flicks as well, its those ones that don't lead you on and give you the run around. They are more honest and that's what we wanted. Some honesty about how hard love really is and the extent of crazy things it makes us do. It also does help us reflect a light on a potential mate. We don't always get the answer to heartbreak and that was the worst part, we want too see other get their heartbroken and see how they come back from it and what road they took. It never is a clear answer and that was the worst part. Why didn't heartbreak have an answer?

I guess now then point is, if heartbreak actually had answer then maybe we could stop it from happening and that maybe we could heal each other when the ugly decides to rear his head. We have somewhat a pure insight to love and we believe that we have what it takes. Or so that's what I thought of myself after nearly trying every trick in the book. Heartbreak after heartbreak and I still wasn't sure I wasn't going in the right direction I couldn't get my Jake or anyone else too swoon unless I less I knew directly what they liked and I think with that being said, is that there is no formula. All it takes is getting to know someone and go from there. Thats what those chicks flicks are missing the basic formula and if someone doesn't get rid right we are going too screw everyone else up as a whole and thats would be the worst part. We are all young and we are slowly figuring it out and as soon as we figure it out all those love gestures are actually going to work someday and we are going to have some the greatest moments of a lifetime waiting for us.