Now what do we know? We know that the world is a strange place and that it is constantly evolving day in and day out right. That also goes for the way we find love as well right? Now I being the ever so curious person I am went and tried it.
Picture this early august of last year, I was still getting her Jake who left a few months prior. Where did that leave me? Lonely and blocked on iMessage for the mean time, because you know Jake shows up later all willy nilly. So what do I do? Well I scope the Internet for these dating sites and which ones are the best. I'm not gonna lie I kinda felt desperate, I was really use too the outdoor thing you know. Like I go out I find a guy that's cute, and I pursue him while he pursues other girls he likes. Yeah I know this dating site thing is odd. Now I am only going to name the dating site in abbreviation just in case you know. Well one lovely evening I decided that I couldn't afford a car payment and Match.Com so I went for the cheaper sites, which wasn't all that great but we all need a starting point right?
I built a profile with all the best things about myself while keeping it as honest as possible. I put all my best traits together and I made sure I didn't add anything that was too out there. The number one question I got asked was "why are you single you are so cute". For the most part I had to explain Jake and that was the worst part if you ask me. I didn't really know what to say. All the guys had stories to tell and I felt like I had too say something. I mean obviously I am on the site for a reason like everyone else. I can't really say I would've made it with any of them if you ask me. I mean I'm weird and my living situation is weird as well. I still had confidence and wanted to give it a shot though.
The first website I came across was CtingSnles. Now that one I couldn't figure out. I wasn't sure if it was because of my phone, or because these things were better on a real computer. I didn't know the difference either way so I went with it. Now I wasn't getting an bites at the time and I was uploading my best snap chat pictures. I went on for about 3 days like that so the next website that came to mind was one that showed up in Lady gagas music video. Now PF was absolutely crazy, even though the mobile site had a Tinder feel to it. I got all these messages in a matter of hours. That was cool and all but the problem is, I felt overwhelmed at the time. I didn't know who to talk to plus no offense but a lot of these guys weren't my type and the ones that were. Obviously weren't interested in me and that goes for girls as well.
I went on a mission day in and day out, I did my research and I did my best too hold interesting conversation. Some worked some didn't but every method I tried it seemed like a lot of these guys just wanted too sleep with me. There were at least 5 who just wanted to hang out and be friends. So I will always be grateful for that. I did my best too keep up with a few of them but we didn't have the same interests especially since I had kids and stuff. All in all it wasn't a bad experience. I had this interesting endeavor with one very nice guy who I met. He played the violin and was interested in monster trucks and books with hard covers. Now I am as unorthodox as they come so it was in my best interest to give him a go.
He was cute, could carry a conversation, and he made it a point to message me everyday. I was really impressed with myself for staying interested for so long. He was different and that was the best part if you ask me. We met in person and it was like he was everything his profile said he was and that gave me some relief. That gave me some relief about myself as well. He had done this dating website thing before and I thought it was great. We hung out everyday and we always went out. Now all we do is sit around and make weird jokes at each other. All was going well until I get a devastating phone call from Jake and next thing you know. I'm still trying to solve his problems while navigating my own. All in the midst of this beautiful relationship I was trying too start.
My advice to you, is if you are looking for love and wanna use the Internets algorithms by all means be my guest. Just remember to be safe and don't do anything you don't feel comfortable with. If he's talking to you and you get bad vibes don't hesitate too use those block buttons :)
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