Living in two different places and commuting?

I think the weirdest situation that I found myself in was when I started living in two different places and not working in either of those places. I found myself in this situation because I jumped into a new relationship. It all started with a dating app! Yes everyone they actually work!! Now who gets to start their stories off like that! Anyways this is a narrative about why spreading yourself thin location wise is a headache (at least for me)...


Well I was in my room one day and I found myself on the OKC dating app. I believe I have mentioned it before in one of my other posts but I’m just going by the standard success that I achieved. Although I didn’t think I was gonna be spreading myself so thin. So I met my Trans Boyfriend Eden well obviously before that we weren’t a thing,  anyways moving on let’s fast forward to the part where we both work at Tesla. Sounds like a plus right! Now let me go back and add that Eden lives in an entire two cities away and even though it was only a 45min drive it felt like a lifetime when it comes to getting off of work and then having to catch an hour and a half commute home vs my standard 14min drive home. Keep in mind I still lived with my ex at the time and I was looking for a roommate anyways so of course I didn’t think about it and just ran with it (like always).

Now let me throw in what happened before that, I remember being at work and finding out that Eden had his car break down on the side of the road. Now I wasn't sure how that was affecting me at the time because I was kissing boys behind the boxes at work. Although knowing me I will always come to the rescue for people. . I remember trying to send some money over but of course like everything else in life im bad at it what also factored into that was I have no boundaries when it comes getting myself into the negative with my bank card. (Okay sit and judge me all you want im still young and making it in the world). Anyways the moral of the story was that I was stupidly nice back then. Okay so that was a thing it worked he got home safe and we continue to talk more and more.

Im talking the whole nine, the good morning and goodnight stuff, we were already planning to meet each other on the weekend. I feel like I also need to filter down to the fact that we were like on a snapchat binge for a little bit but anyways that’s besides the point once again. I found myself once again stuck with this huge crush. Just wait til I start telling you guys about the weekend, I get to his place and he’s just so bubbly and ecstatic and all I could do was get so facinated. Facinated to a point that I remember both people need to convey outward interest to keep the conversation going. His voice was like a harp and that’s what I at least felt at the time as I time went on I have come to the conclusion his voice is one of the more positive things I reflect on when it comes to talking about this. Things actually turned great after that I meant his two daughters and we cuddled. Now right before this I went to the bar so I was pretty smashed so I slept a little bit and sobered up before I made the long two hour drive. The cuddling was great. I never really get this with other people and I guess you could say that that was the part that was scaring.

I guess you could say when I moved in things worked out for the greater well of course as they say the first 6 months is the hardest and I can steel you I have been well versed in that very statement since me and him even started taking this thing forward and and to the heights that we took it. Anyways  forget the sappy love stuff okay and lets get back to location. picture living int the middle of two cities thats an hour from each direction. Got that? Okay now picture traveling from either location to be twice as long as the trip in the middle was. Now factor in that you have 3 main locations in all 3 of these options. Forexample: Kids stay in the middle place and you and your new boo stay in the location the left of the house in the middle now factor in your job on the opposite side. 

It was not easy let me tell you, I can also tell you that the only way me and Eden were working out was not so good at the time and by not so good I meant all we could really do was be together on the way to work and back home (until he switched his shift and then that in of itself was very annoying if you ask me of course and he actually came back to earth). I remember two places more then anything else right now, one being the shuttle we were constantly on and of course the inside of my car. I cant remember Edens apartment so much anymore more. His two daughters got sick so he had to quit to be there for him, hell it was so sad I almost gave up my job to help him out (good thing I didnt otherwise this whole experience thing would definitely be fucked). It was everyday almost non-stop get up early afternoon and drive to the bus stop, wait there ...ect

A routine like that will really eat you up on the inside especially when its cold but you both were sow emerged in your own way of thinking that you become a slave to the routine. I didnt want to be like that. I spent so much time driving I couldn't really remember where I was going from time to time and it was really frustrating and sometimes I would have dreams about t3he job and that was the worst! Not to mention I was eating a good array of fast food and that was doing it pretty bad for me considering I could barely keep up with the gym. So I guess you could say that getting fat was definitely in my future even though I did my best to keep up with the salads and other awkward dietary changes.

This went on for a couple of grueling months but it all came to an end when Eden decided he was gonna dump me right before New Years and it was just between me living in the home in the middle and my job and boy did it cut down on my travel time. I felt like I was getting more sleep and really felt like I had more time to just play around, masturbate and just be myself in the long. Although with work and school up my back it seems like the entire living situation go really blown out there so here I am back to the drawing board once again.

Moral to the story? Commuting is hard and its not for the weak. So iff you wanna challenge yourself. Try to commit to commuting somewhere and for those of you that do it and are holding strong great job you guys you have this for sure!!!