Thursday, April 22, 2021

Parental hijacking Is that what its called?

 Hey everyone! Im back to talk about some of the weird shit that I have been going through in my personal life for those of you interested that's great stay awhile. For those that are nosey...cool stay as long as you need. For those who could careless well...theres always that. I truly dont know where to start but im starting somewhere bear with me! Do I also need to add in the fact that names and some information will be changed for I guess you could say legal purposes?

Home life is just a headache at this point, parenting is kind of useless at this point but I won't leave it on such a negative connotation. Okay that whole start was kind of droopy but I will go into details. Look at me sitting here confused not knowing where to start but lets start with the matriarch of the house holdShe's kind of a demon and sort of a nuisance. Image trying to be an active efficient parent for your kids  and like their grandparent is cockblocking you. I firstly imagined that grandparents were a happy healthy thing and that its a lot of love and support.  Yeah I know I have to stop dwelling into these weak TV fantasies but who can help it right? Everything is better when its scripted.

Well no I can solely say that grandparents in this case are doing way more harm then good and I truly can't tell if they mean well or they are going out of their way to annoy the shit out of me. Some days it goes over well and I can kind of deal with all the dramatics but what I went through yesterday in particular was very, very, strange. Most definitely annoying to say the least. First let me say this if you dont have kids feel free to skip over this next parent because basically I have to give a run down on the situation and I dont want anyone getting bored or not being able to relate to the situation at hand. 

Okay so parents with girls let me give you the run down right quick on what happened. Okay so imagine your 6 year old daughter throwing a fit because she doesn't want to do virtual school. So you're on stand by and you are trying to get the girls father to handle the situation but he's too busy trying to talk to your 8 year old who's off to the side giving attitude because he doesn't want to attend his morning zoom call. Image trying to sort the situation out the calmest and the best way possible just for it blow up in your face. AND I MEAN REALLY BLOW UP! So now that you have that scenario going I want you add onto it and what I mean by that is, imagine that your kids grandparent comes in and yells and you and calls you a child abuser all because you grabbed and spanked your daughter who was on the floor throwing a five year tantrum.

It gets worse because as you stand there and try and defend your point that its not entirely child abuse if you spank your child. However she's not from the same culture or principals as me so I can easily see where the disagreement lies. I dont like it but I deal with it, I do truly my best to hear her out but a lot of the time that goes left field. Not too mention that there's a generational gap between us so that plays a huge roll in not seeing eye to eye a lot of time and once again its one of the many things that I am out here putting up with for whatever reason. 

Anyways back to the grandparent. This same grandparent decided that they are going to take it a step further and try and snatch your child away and then proceed to tell you that they will call the police on you if you dont stop and leave the house. Not to mention the tantrum throwing child isn't helping by screaming at the top of her lungs for then grandparent. So imagine yourself doing your best not to really lose your shit on somebody's mother. Not only are you trying to keep it together and try to shovel your way out of a shit situation you are also trying not to become the raging BPD monster that you are deep within. 

Sorry to whoever felt like I took the third person personification too far, I have a tendency to get carried away and want to put other people in my shoes long as possible. Im looking to work out the issue in on someones couch in a doctors office but that is a later stage in life I guess, where I try and build deep connections with the professionals in my life, because god knows I have to stop using cashiers in grocery stores to vent my every emotion downplay and bad choice. It's gruesome and almost is inhuman to say the least. Now let's get back on track.

Okay so back to me trying to fend off a matriarchal dinosaur for trying to take one of my kids and throw me in the clinker (yes I turned that into a cringe sentence and I truly don't care). She's standing there yelling at me about how crazy I am and that I need to calm down and I yell back at her that she already raised her kids and that she needs to back off of mine. I knew I could've came better but I got stuck. On top of that I wasn't really trying to argue but damn it I will not be disrespected. I standardly explained to her that out of all of the years that  I was raising kids in that house she always interfered and that her solutions to anything pertaining to it was dumb. Naturally that made her mad and she judged me for basically having to come back, work, go to school and live on the couch. This naturally made me about four times angry and I am looking at my baby daddy at this pint like "get your parent bro".

It heats up and she then proceeds got tell me the I needed to be drug tested and that I wouldn't win if I tried and took the kids away. At this point I felt entirely put into a corner so I started yelling at her and addressed all the flaws within her family. A few other got into the mix and I talked her marriage being a complete failure and that her nor her husband were ever going to admit that they fell out of love years ago. It wasn't my business to tell but since she wanted to come at such a low standard I figured I could maybe get something good in by the time it called for it. It worked for a little while and it had no choice to because she was running out of things to say and I would say that it was because she want expecting me to have so many comebacks.

Some people figure that I dont argue intelligently and its not even that. I just know when things should be talked about I guess. I could have called her ut of her name several times but I cholesterols to take the lesser of two evils and go at the personal things in her life. I hope she learned form this. Parental hijacking sucks but it happens to a lot of us. However as long as we stay positive and argue efficiently then we can really make something happen. and change to get better parts out of the situation. However be wise this doesn't always work and sometimes a better approach is the way but stay resilient off anything and Guess that the more right?